Today after drifting pass a battle like march of waving Valentine balloons I had myself a bit of thinking (yes, I too can have my moments) that with all the fuss of Valentines day and the fierce spirit of expensive romantic restaurant meals and hallmark cards in love full bloom, that we can all, all to often allow the focus of intrigue and Eros to blind us to the daily supplication and maintenance of what we already possess.
So much so that I did a little bit of tinkering about the astro chart in an attempt to tap into the essence of the day and to stir some thought on what may help to maintain a sense of unity and harmony with the other half in the year to come -
Here are the points that came to me – they may be worth the ponder!
Venus in Aries and the first house;
Have realistic expectations for your relationship.
The teaching of this aspect is direct in its intention for people to realise that their relationship will be different than they had planned and thought it would be. Unrealistic expectations can ruin and undermine the hopes and aspirations of what is really just a normal stage of getting to know each other better.
While at first those dreamy eyes of your beloved may excuse the fact that they are regularly late to go out to dinner, or deny the annoyance of having to watch a game of footie or soapy and those magical kisses can dismiss a messy house that later makes you want to kick down a door and attack the place with a vacuum (ok, ok I've being there! lol) but when we remember ahead of time that we will have growing pains throughout a relationship it will help when us to notice these little things bothering you and therefore more enabled to overcome them. The Moon in
Libra enters the seventh house;
Commit to lifelong relationship:
Although this seems to inspire a sense of horror in most people to making this decision can help us when we faced with disappointing times in your relationship or allow us to remove ourselves from something we do not feel is worth it.
A strong union is not build only on happiness (although there will be much of that... thankfully), it is built on a commitment to one another. All unions are going to go through a change physically and emotionally and we ourselves will also change in their eyes. Making a commitment to the other to help them through the sicknesses, financial stresses, disagreements and unforeseen issues can end up doing far more then just strengthening a loving bond as you tackle them together.
Saturn in opposition to Uranus;
Realize you were made differently;
Such a fundamental idea is easy to see from our physical differences. From our very features to the clothes that we wear, however, in a relationship we can get mixed up into thinking we should each want to snuggle, kiss, socialize, spend money and look at situations the same which can lead to great frustration, confusion and agitation.
In understanding and remembering that we we are different and that we are therefore to some degree made to think and act differently, when we encounter a differences of opinions a friendly lets just agree to disagree attitude can be all that is needed to lighten the air.
Jupiter and Mars are aligned in Aquarius in the twelfth house;
Have a plan to resolve conflict.
It is important when faced with a conflict to have a workable tool designed to help us through
our issues. Even though I only go dancing occasionally (thankfully... and much to the horror of those who have to endure my near seizure like dance on the dance floor) I believe it it to be a great example.
While dancing most dance as a team, (just like in a union) using each other’s rhythm to flow with the music. The same is true in compromising. Both throw out ideas and motions and both use it to move to new actions rather then continue to replay the same old rigid routine of self construction. When we come to a workable compromise, we both win, no matter who came up with the idea. We don’t win by challenging each other; we win by working off each other’s strengths. Either both win in a union or you both lose.
Mercury aligned with Pluto;
Spend quality time together:
This is the basic logic of Mercury that is often overthrown by Pluto but as we live in a busy hectic world in where we are kept busy with work, tv, the Internet, blog reading, spending time with friends and family, our hobbies, chores, commitments... along with so many other things to occupy our time. How many of us had best friends that are now past acquaintances because we didn't stay in touch?
The same can come to pass in relationships; while of course there's no expectations to be joined at the hip (and in truth he'd probably of muffled me by now) but spending some quality time together, heading out for dinner, a movie, a drive, going for a romantic walk, kiss and cook together, or just simply do something that will lighten the communal load.
When we refuse to let other less important things get in the way of the relationship, and if we come to feel they are more important than perhaps we should re-evaluate what is really important to ourselves and our loved one.
I believe the old saying is still true: we don’t realize what we have until it’s gone. Relationships are a great and rewarding gift to be shared with those that we love, but it is also one of the hardest things we will ever experience. Staying together takes work, and as it should – as a loved one should never be overlooked or taken for granted.We can mistake love as a magical thing; it simply happens because it’s love.
Yet we have been told over and over again by speakers and on plaques: “Love is kind, patient, doesn’t envy and doesn’t seek its own way.” which certainly sounds like there is allot for us to consider in our own behaviour for the success of the union.
So much so that I did a little bit of tinkering about the astro chart in an attempt to tap into the essence of the day and to stir some thought on what may help to maintain a sense of unity and harmony with the other half in the year to come -
Here are the points that came to me – they may be worth the ponder!
Venus in Aries and the first house;
Have realistic expectations for your relationship.
The teaching of this aspect is direct in its intention for people to realise that their relationship will be different than they had planned and thought it would be. Unrealistic expectations can ruin and undermine the hopes and aspirations of what is really just a normal stage of getting to know each other better.
While at first those dreamy eyes of your beloved may excuse the fact that they are regularly late to go out to dinner, or deny the annoyance of having to watch a game of footie or soapy and those magical kisses can dismiss a messy house that later makes you want to kick down a door and attack the place with a vacuum (ok, ok I've being there! lol) but when we remember ahead of time that we will have growing pains throughout a relationship it will help when us to notice these little things bothering you and therefore more enabled to overcome them. The Moon in
Libra enters the seventh house;
Commit to lifelong relationship:
Although this seems to inspire a sense of horror in most people to making this decision can help us when we faced with disappointing times in your relationship or allow us to remove ourselves from something we do not feel is worth it.
A strong union is not build only on happiness (although there will be much of that... thankfully), it is built on a commitment to one another. All unions are going to go through a change physically and emotionally and we ourselves will also change in their eyes. Making a commitment to the other to help them through the sicknesses, financial stresses, disagreements and unforeseen issues can end up doing far more then just strengthening a loving bond as you tackle them together.
Saturn in opposition to Uranus;
Realize you were made differently;
Such a fundamental idea is easy to see from our physical differences. From our very features to the clothes that we wear, however, in a relationship we can get mixed up into thinking we should each want to snuggle, kiss, socialize, spend money and look at situations the same which can lead to great frustration, confusion and agitation.
In understanding and remembering that we we are different and that we are therefore to some degree made to think and act differently, when we encounter a differences of opinions a friendly lets just agree to disagree attitude can be all that is needed to lighten the air.
Jupiter and Mars are aligned in Aquarius in the twelfth house;
Have a plan to resolve conflict.
It is important when faced with a conflict to have a workable tool designed to help us through
our issues. Even though I only go dancing occasionally (thankfully... and much to the horror of those who have to endure my near seizure like dance on the dance floor) I believe it it to be a great example.
While dancing most dance as a team, (just like in a union) using each other’s rhythm to flow with the music. The same is true in compromising. Both throw out ideas and motions and both use it to move to new actions rather then continue to replay the same old rigid routine of self construction. When we come to a workable compromise, we both win, no matter who came up with the idea. We don’t win by challenging each other; we win by working off each other’s strengths. Either both win in a union or you both lose.
Mercury aligned with Pluto;
Spend quality time together:
This is the basic logic of Mercury that is often overthrown by Pluto but as we live in a busy hectic world in where we are kept busy with work, tv, the Internet, blog reading, spending time with friends and family, our hobbies, chores, commitments... along with so many other things to occupy our time. How many of us had best friends that are now past acquaintances because we didn't stay in touch?
The same can come to pass in relationships; while of course there's no expectations to be joined at the hip (and in truth he'd probably of muffled me by now) but spending some quality time together, heading out for dinner, a movie, a drive, going for a romantic walk, kiss and cook together, or just simply do something that will lighten the communal load.
When we refuse to let other less important things get in the way of the relationship, and if we come to feel they are more important than perhaps we should re-evaluate what is really important to ourselves and our loved one.
I believe the old saying is still true: we don’t realize what we have until it’s gone. Relationships are a great and rewarding gift to be shared with those that we love, but it is also one of the hardest things we will ever experience. Staying together takes work, and as it should – as a loved one should never be overlooked or taken for granted.We can mistake love as a magical thing; it simply happens because it’s love.
Yet we have been told over and over again by speakers and on plaques: “Love is kind, patient, doesn’t envy and doesn’t seek its own way.” which certainly sounds like there is allot for us to consider in our own behaviour for the success of the union.
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